tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.comments2023-06-17T07:09:25.814-07:00Hope Forward: Surviving and Thriving through Emotional PainMelissa Groman, LCSWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comBlogger393125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-30370297336540196172015-09-08T15:43:52.334-07:002015-09-08T15:43:52.334-07:00Thanks TherapyDoc - nice to have stop by!
Thanks TherapyDoc - nice to have stop by!<br />Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-51389923091462541842015-09-07T19:23:08.984-07:002015-09-07T19:23:08.984-07:00Oh, I love that 30 minute rule!Oh, I love that 30 minute rule!therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-19414317946711166142013-12-27T08:35:46.562-08:002013-12-27T08:35:46.562-08:00Thanks so much Lily! I really appreciate your kind...Thanks so much Lily! I really appreciate your kind words and knowing that you are still reading!<br />Warmly,<br />MelissaMelissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-29930425620193836462013-12-26T19:55:45.043-08:002013-12-26T19:55:45.043-08:00I've followed your blog for years. I still kee...I've followed your blog for years. I still keep up with reading many blogs and wanted to thank you for continuing to write. I've learned a lot from your posts about myself and that may not have happened without you taking the time to put your thoughts out there. Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06044336707596369037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-26875823771011405352013-12-02T09:14:59.928-08:002013-12-02T09:14:59.928-08:00Hi Anon.
Thanks for commenting
Glad you stopped b...Hi Anon.<br />Thanks for commenting<br /><br />Glad you stopped by.<br />MelissaMelissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-81771637906797970622013-12-02T09:11:28.359-08:002013-12-02T09:11:28.359-08:00Thank you for this. I am grieving for a loss that ...Thank you for this. I am grieving for a loss that I may not ever get back since my daughter has cut both of us out of her life and with our only grandchild. I've had so many stressful life events in a period of 8 months. I am just beginning to cope with not crying everyday, which I have. I am learning not to cave into my broken heart, which seems to have so many band aids on it. This helped me know that I am not alone, and I'm not the "mean, hateful, selfish, delusional" woman that I have been accused of being. <br /><br />I'm grieving and so sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-46778555975387922062013-09-25T05:36:39.043-07:002013-09-25T05:36:39.043-07:00I am so glad that Doc elicited such a response in ...I am so glad that Doc elicited such a response in you to be able to define it in such a way that the door opened for you... to see it in your own unique way undefined, yet shared in a very definitive, precise way. The door always opens and closes, the outside locks are always there, but the inside is the freedom to look withing where all the blessings unfold. Ah women, and amen... to all:) Marni Leigh<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-16026763764544326082013-08-16T01:47:57.535-07:002013-08-16T01:47:57.535-07:00This is great!This is great!Rachaelhttp://bestellipticalsmachine.us/2013/08/06/the-best-elliptical-bike/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-31129461244480002492013-08-15T00:16:19.831-07:002013-08-15T00:16:19.831-07:00Fantastic!Fantastic!Hildegardhttp://www.makemoneyonlinepro.us/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-88702659448725940512013-06-24T11:14:52.565-07:002013-06-24T11:14:52.565-07:00Hi Anonymous...
lots of the 12 step lit is helpful...Hi Anonymous...<br />lots of the 12 step lit is helpful on this topic... Drop the Rock is one option...<br />Thom Rutledge is also good on fear based thinking and John Gottman on relationships... <br />thanks for stopping by!Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-43838110217314729772013-06-24T11:09:47.843-07:002013-06-24T11:09:47.843-07:00I know that I have been living a fear based existe...I know that I have been living a fear based existence for years now. It was AA that brought to my attention the idea of "Fear of losing something we already had" which for myself is security. Now, for the first time in years, I am in a relationship and that fear is rearing its ugly head because it is no longer JUST me; that security I worked so hard at is now at risk. I find I'm looking for faults in him and our overall differences. Basically, a way out. So, with that said, is there any reading that may help me work through this issue? or any ideas. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-71031343930321958252013-04-09T06:12:41.603-07:002013-04-09T06:12:41.603-07:00Anon: Yes yes and yes! Thank you so much for your...Anon: Yes yes and yes! Thank you so much for your comment!Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-63598394226531480222013-04-09T00:12:52.294-07:002013-04-09T00:12:52.294-07:00A.A. defines self centered fear as:"Fear of n...A.A. defines self centered fear as:"Fear of not getting something we want or fear of losing something we already have. "...I have found a third:" Fear of losing something we never really had". I had a wise elderly man tell me once everything he ever learned in life was in retrospect.He realized I was spending too much time trying to understand things in the present based on my current feelings and emotions.(which reminds me of something another wise man once told me ,"feelings are real but there not usually based on reality".)I often couldn't see past ME.I also learned he meant you can only see your patterns if you look back. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-37337335459770640682013-04-04T07:01:21.474-07:002013-04-04T07:01:21.474-07:00Thank you once again for your love and willingness...Thank you once again for your love and willingness to share your feelings..Weight Loss Diethttp://www.naturoline.com/en/e-diet/weight-loss-dietnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-63449648626341267192013-02-26T14:33:49.985-08:002013-02-26T14:33:49.985-08:00Thanks Anon.!Thanks Anon.!Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-24766176089878689532013-02-26T05:05:35.814-08:002013-02-26T05:05:35.814-08:00Amazing post! Thank you.Amazing post! Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-2909717092950500162013-02-25T07:18:00.474-08:002013-02-25T07:18:00.474-08:00Thanks for stopping by anon. and for your comment....Thanks for stopping by anon. and for your comment.Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-81883183654968793582013-02-24T22:37:13.239-08:002013-02-24T22:37:13.239-08:00This was very helpful because I feel like some my ...This was very helpful because I feel like some my relationships repeat themselves in a very unhealthy mannerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-86339412175604846542013-01-27T18:46:07.726-08:002013-01-27T18:46:07.726-08:00it sure does. Thanks for stopping by.it sure does. Thanks for stopping by.Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-83284399630471235852013-01-27T15:11:24.358-08:002013-01-27T15:11:24.358-08:00They say time heals all wounds... and it does. It...They say time heals all wounds... and it does. It just hurts so bad along the way.Samantha Sweetehttp://www.squidoo.com/survivingbreakupsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-84660096653836577782013-01-23T18:55:04.418-08:002013-01-23T18:55:04.418-08:00Thanks Anon,
good to have your thoughts.
MelissaThanks Anon,<br />good to have your thoughts.<br />MelissaMelissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-28955546052484036792013-01-23T17:58:23.152-08:002013-01-23T17:58:23.152-08:00I think when people are struggling,they can get so...<br /><br />I think when people are struggling,they can get so caught up in the idea that time heals everything, that they forget to be proactively working to make things better in times of struggle. Problems don't disappear and feelings don't always change on their own. A quote from the Dixie Chicks, "They say time heals everything, but I'm still waiting." If the person suffering is not ready to make a change, it will take a lot more time and a great deal of frustration in their healing process. Like you said, sometimes people will have great resiliency or they will wait until they are until it is almost impossible to fix their emotional distance before they decide to get help. Sometimes people dwell and build resentment toward themselves or others that they are in too deep to go it alone. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-76121896638737683122012-12-08T16:37:15.546-08:002012-12-08T16:37:15.546-08:00Hi Anon.
Since I am not an MD I am not able to co...Hi Anon.<br /><br />Since I am not an MD I am not able to comment on medication. Seems like it would be a good idea to speak to a trusted doctor and/or find a local therapist to start with! Don't suffer alone! Get some support and some help. <br />MelissaMelissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-50864103756478797572012-12-07T16:04:06.759-08:002012-12-07T16:04:06.759-08:00I have a question about antidepressants. I'm n...I have a question about antidepressants. I'm now so frightened to do school work that I'm started procrastinating. I have made myself sit down and do the work but it's a very painful experience. I start to get dizzy and it's hard to concentrate. I tried deep breathing but it's super embarrassing in front of my peers. Will Prozac help? How have patients reacted to Prozac. All I see on the internet are bad reviews about the side effects and how it will make life worse. I am learning to tolerate my frustrations but it's a slow process. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-88783377039921324302012-11-19T09:39:45.842-08:002012-11-19T09:39:45.842-08:00thanks for your good thoughts anon.thanks for your good thoughts anon.Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.com