tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post6887081149874680246..comments2023-06-17T07:09:25.814-07:00Comments on Hope Forward: Surviving and Thriving through Emotional Pain: YELLINGMelissa Groman, LCSWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-20755360621861314722012-10-25T06:43:22.326-07:002012-10-25T06:43:22.326-07:00Dear Anon.
I'm glad you posted... but it'...Dear Anon.<br /><br />I'm glad you posted... but it's really important for you to contact a professional and talk about your life and your feelings! You can look for help online, at www.psychologytoday.com<br />or www.goodtherapy.org or you can call your local county or city mental health agency... most will work with whatever you can afford or direct you. Also, you can check out families anonymous for free help dealing with family dynamics. It's important to have support and not go it alone!!!! Make a decision to find a therapist as soon as possible. If you feel like hurting yourself, call for help immediately. (911 or your local suicide prevnetion hotline number) There is always hope... and you can help make things in your life change for the better even if you can't imagine how.<br />I'm glad you posted.... please take the next right step and find someone local to talk to!Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-26762386046949473492012-10-24T18:41:05.720-07:002012-10-24T18:41:05.720-07:00I am 20 years old going on 21 in less than 3 month...I am 20 years old going on 21 in less than 3 months and i still get yelled at by both of my parents but is mostly my mom now. As a kid i would get yelled at for doing things that kids would get in trouble for but when it comes to my future i get scared. my mom's yelling felt like threats to me because if im not in school or the military of a job then im out of the house and i cant afford it yet and it makes me scared. the yelling i have been given i tried to make things right but it seemed to get worse over time. when she told me wat i just typed tht same night; i was so emotionally broken that i went for a walk but almost tried to kill myself please, what should i do i am also meeting a recruiter to reenlist for the army in hopes of fixing this mess. help me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-64352204524225619192012-06-22T18:12:31.567-07:002012-06-22T18:12:31.567-07:00this is really helping me understand. I am a yelle...this is really helping me understand. I am a yellee, I am kind of stand offish when it comes to people yelling at me. I shut down and normally leads to an emotional breakdown. I've been this way for years and i also get angry with them, I get scared to ask them things I wouldn't normally be scared to ask them. Them being my parents. Do you have any thoughts as to why I do this? I have dealt with this for years usually I feel lonely as well as unloved and usually try to fight back but never do, because I normally just shut down and after they leave when I think or I know it's safe I cry and cry sometimes for hours.For the Love of the Doghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06500858533253451683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-3761581381448120542012-01-15T17:27:01.494-08:002012-01-15T17:27:01.494-08:00Hi Nicki,
Thanks for stopping by and for your hone...Hi Nicki,<br />Thanks for stopping by and for your honest comments. Sometimes when communication is stuck, it's a good time to go to a professional third party and work it out. <br />You make a good and important point about how your wife's silence effects you.Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-54690300520763646952012-01-10T08:13:38.321-08:002012-01-10T08:13:38.321-08:00I am a yeller at times. I grew up with someone wh...I am a yeller at times. I grew up with someone who yelled on occassion or presented her information loud. I have done much to correct it. However, in my marriage 100% of the time I initially and often present my perspective calmly, compassionately, and I begin by taking responsibility for my own actions that lead to the issue. Unfortunately, 100% of the time I either get silence or defense in reaction with no attempt from my wife (for her own reasons) to have a productive conversation. Eventually, I yell in frustration because the other avenues NEVER work. It's not good for me, my wife, or our daughter. If presenting myself consistently the right way almost never creates a productive conversation I don't know what else to do. I am often villified for the yelling, but can't seem to help my wife understand that her consistent silence and deflection are just as painful (in my mind) as my yelling. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-15156501615934873892011-11-19T18:15:06.097-08:002011-11-19T18:15:06.097-08:00you're welcome! Thanks for stopping by and tak...you're welcome! Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment!Melissa Groman, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341980298878431177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4376050346911543738.post-61025583163594293942011-11-18T21:00:58.669-08:002011-11-18T21:00:58.669-08:00Thank you for this post, I just stumbled on this l...Thank you for this post, I just stumbled on this looking for something else but it was such a relief reading that. My childhood was extremely chaotic that way, yelling and sometimes physical abuse. I've never been able to leave that behind me and I see that as a young adult it still affects how I see myself, what I do and my relationships. When I was a kid, it took me a long time to sort of.. objectively figure out I didn't outright deserve that treatment. Thanks anyways, this helps.Moniquenoreply@blogger.com