Monday, August 12, 2013
It's Not About the Nail (or is it?)
If you haven't seen this video (It's Not About the Nail) give it a look!
Of course, "it" is actually about the nail, too. But before we can get to the nail itself, we need to feel emotionally connected, supported and heard. We need to feel understood. That is part of the point really.
Sometimes it takes a bit of bravery and some time to find out what, exactly, our particular nail actually is. And when we have some good guesses , we can ask some good questions about the nail like: how did it get there in the first place? What unconscious purpose does it serve? What is our reluctance to taking a look at it? What if it were not there?
Sometimes, the nail goes away just by studying it a bit. Or just by having someone understand what it's like to be suffering.
And of course, the video highlights what often is the difference between male/female needs, experiences and approaches. It's serious stuff, actually, in many ways, but the video brings a bit of levity.