Monday, October 6, 2014
What comes up here in the office a lot is how changing the direction of our inner world can not only bring us more ease, more clarity, more satisfaction, but it is also a way of being of service to the world around us. It's a win win.
So it seems that one good way to change the wind and sail in a different direction both internally and externally is by upping the use of gratitude. Yes, we know that focusing on what we "yes" have can offset our pain a bit and help us not feel so deprived and stuck. We know that it does not erase our hurts, but it can pave the way to new thoughts and better feelings. But...
Several new studies out are now confirming that actually saying "Thank You" to others - even - and maybe especially for the "little" things - like taking out the garbage, holding the door open, making dinner, remembering to call can make a big impact. Seems like the words themselves make a difference. In the worthy discussion of whether we should act ourselves into thinking or think ourselves into action in order to feel better and have better, saying thank you is on the simple side.
Apparently, saying thank you brings in more money, improves work performance, improves cooperation, brings reciprocity, and creates good feelings in both the speaker and the receiver. We know this, but now more science is backing us up and common sense is not so common so we have to keep saying it.
It's not always easy of course. If there is a brick wall of resentment or old hurts or disappointments between you and the world or you and a particular person, it's harder to do. We may not feel like it. We may not want to, think we should or should have to. But it's a small action. Nothing grand, but words do make a difference and not just to the person we say them to. Our words shape us, they shape our inner and outer worlds. Instead of waiting for the wind to change, we can put good vibes out - they will come back to us. I'm not saying that things will magically change, nor should we ignore our feelings, of course, but when we don't know where to start, two small words can be one small step. They will help take down the bricks.
Thank you for reading.