Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Good Things to Say
Somewhere in the course of our discussion I had said that whatever she decided, I was with her. That she had my support either way.
I recall that I said it and that I meant it. I did not know exactly what direction she should take, but we talked out what the options were, the feelings, pros and cons and risks and I felt that I could and would support her either way.
It got me to thinking once again about how important and powerful words are. How what comes out of our mouth matters a lot. We can't always know how our words will be received or the impact they will have, but we can heighten our awareness and consider what we say and how and if it reflects what we mean. It's easier to do when we are not working around or through or with big feelings, but it's good to say good things when we mean it, and when we can.
It also got me thinking about more good things we can say, just in the routine of our day, that can add a bit of support, joy, good vibes and good feelings to those we care about and even to the world around us. I'm not suggesting we be false, or chipper, but some genuine good and spontaneous words are among the not-so-little little things we can do to strengthen our relationships and build the esteem of those around us.
Try a few of these:
I looked forward to seeing you all day.
Thank you for asking about my day.
I love being at your side.
Everything is better because of you.
You work hard for us.
It's an honor (gift, privilege) to be your mother/father.
You are such a great kid.
You have the best smile.
I'm on your side.
I like spending time with you.
I notice how hard you are working/trying.
For Bosses and/or Co-Workers:
I appreciate your guidance/input/encouragement/feedback
I'm glad we work together.
Thank you for being such good company all day
I like the way you think.
You really took/take good care of me
Thank you for looking out for me
I remember the time you ..... Thank you for that.
I'm blessed to have you in my life
You're a good friend.
You're good company
Thanks for being here. Thanks for always ....
Of course saying good stuff has to fit your own style, tone and timing.
And I'm not suggesting that the difficult stuff gets brushed under the rug, I'm saying that good words often get lost, and its too bad because they really can help create a better culture and foster good feelings, which then go along way during the tough times.