Tuesday, June 17, 2014
Worry Train or Hang Gliding on Feelings (the stories we tell ourselves)
We all have so many thoughts all the time, many of which we are not consciously aware of - that is the nature of thought and of the human experience. But understanding how and why we attach ourselves to those thoughts and can go a long way towards influencing our experience of each other, of life, of ourselves.
When a thought or thought pattern comes into our head and we latch on, or start hang gliding on it, we close ourselves off to deeper levels of consciousness, of awareness about what we are thinking, and we close off the possibility of the thoughts and feelings passing without any action having to take place; we shut off the possibility of new, more relaxing, life giving ideas and feelings coming to us.
Deciding to be less attached to each thought or to turn the volume down on our thoughts by looking out for negative thinking patterns and not latching on so fast does not mean dishonoring our emotional pain or checking our brains at the door. It means paying deeper attention to what we are experiencing and being open to letting it breath so that it can pass through if it's meant to pass and to open us back up again to new ideas and new ways of experiencing our world.
It seems too simple at times, to say, lighten up or cheer up or chin up, or to tell yourself a new story. Our old stories have meaning to us, sometimes we don't even know how much meaning they have or how much we believe that they protect us or serve us. We can be afraid to see things differently or to let things go. We can feel very entitled to our feelings, and we may very well be, but it's worth considering that being open to understanding more about how and why we think the way we do, or to letting our feelings and thoughts come, but also go, and not deciding to hang glide on one or two, can be very liberating. The worry train can pull into the station, but we don't always have to get on. We can notice it. We can let it pull out of the station and keep going, and see if a better train pulls in.
You might be surprised at the outcome.